It s true that some parents consider a divorce, as well as its subject. ~ E 'insensitive, "~ You have to be controlled, and the list continues.
However, it is very important that parents understand that the divorce has long-term consequences for those who know and care for them and other family members, friends and especially their children. Here are some reasons why a child so deeply, the idea of his parents' divorce each questionOthers:
They fear that their lives change drastically. Children are aware that divorce, one parent is because there is no way to live. You have the only thing I felt lost in the safest and now I'm not sure that will change. I do not know if they live in the house, even the same city, and if they lose contact with the rest of your family or friends.
If parents arethrough a divorce, the children know they lost a parent, things will never be the same, and that a parent is unable to live with them. This distinguishes the other parent and ask if you fail. Wondering what to do when in charge of all alone without anyone around her or his love.
Children are not only connected with their parents, but through them can become very attached to their grandparents, otherThe brothers, cousins, neighbors, etc.. The house, which means they were born and raised them a lot and so have different proportions. They fear that if parents decide to divorce, you must give up some or all of these.
In addition to these fears, parents should understand that a divorce May 1 and had misunderstandings and conflicts, things tend to distinguish worse before or after. Sometimes, some parents try to turntheir children against the other parent. All this makes the situation almost impossible to treat at home for a small child. Anything can happen, parents must be sensitive to their children feel at this time. Here are some common symptoms that most children affected by advertising and parents should watch.
I am desperately trying to match with their parents. Many children feel their parents divorce morebecause some do not, as such. They believe that if they improve their behavior, to reconcile their parents anyway. They try their strength, or acting parents to give a good persuasion, the idea of divorce.
The children of divorced parents are unusually aggressive or provocative. Many parents tend to ignore these signs as a sign of normal growth, but be careful when their children are unusually aggressive when increasesangry and rebellious, as usual.
Many children in a family not divorced, separated in a position to pressure their parents to deal only closed in themselves. This behavior is hard to miss, even though many parents are considered natural. If not treated, this behavior can lead to severe depression and suicidal thoughts in the mind of a child.
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Many parents feel that divorce led to divorcebetween them and their spouses. You know that hurt their children, but the feeling is not as well as those that may be. You may be surprised at all that their behavior, especially their mistakes, their children can relate to. Here are some common problems that often parents are divorced and should be avoided:
1. Do not criticize his wife in front of children.
Whatever your feelings about your ex, childrenincredibly loyal to people they love. If you know exactly what the other parent criticize him or her love, seems to criticize their children.
2. Not go into gory details of their divorce with their children.
It is never the best situation, when children should be taken in the field of law. Whatever happens, keep the details of their involvement in divorce proceedings to a minimum. Do not argue orCourt alleging that worries financial support or child before the child. Not being able to help the children were confused and helpless.
3. Never use your children.
If there is any information your spouse to be honest and ask for it. Never is the most mature and responsible have to ask your child to learn to spy on her husband.
4. Try not to discuss, and draw on theirChildren
If to keep up with the constant arguments and shouting, though he contributed a divorce, you are very ugly life of their children. Act mature and to avoid conflicts when children are nearby.
5. Just because you feel stressed or overwhelmed with their children, does not mean you have to do their job, or a decision on their own.
Do not ask your child for 11 years, to make decisions in their7 - sister of years, because you're too tired to do it. Managing time and end things for your child is a child.
6. The easiest solution if your child asks questions about her divorce just hang him. However, ignoring the psychological burden of the child is not only what he or she is still miserable, but more afraid of what it means divorcethem.
Seventh punish the woman to visit the source also means punishing the children, probably waiting to spend time with the other parent, also likes it. Imagine that his desire for revenge prevailing feeling of wellbeing.
8;. You do not love your child to purchase, you can win a time of happy smiles. Time with your children and try to help them overcome this difficult timeis the best gift you can give.
9. Children should be children.
Not everything in its power to ensure that their children are safe and well loved. They enjoy their childhood, without worrying about losing the love of their parents. Take the time to spend holidays and holidays with them.
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